Ok, i will try to be short and will reply to the comments as needed. I have been married for 4 months now my wife is still a virgin and this is my 2nd marriage. She has never had any boyfriend or anything I am her 1st everything. I am 30 and American. She is 24 and from the Philippines. We live together in the Philippines. I am getting more sad and depressed daily. We are Christians Pentecostals. She does not view sex as wrong and dirty so there no need to go that way. She seems like a young, inexperienced, and scared woman. We were waiting till marriage. Her words are says she afraid of pain and things of that nature. STD is not the problem. She claims she has not been abused but I can not help but feel like that might be the root of the trouble no reason but my mind. We have talked almost every time it a fight she seem unable to talk about it outside of says she not ready and fears pain she get very defensive Religious is not a factor in a normal way it was part that is what let her be inexperienced but she understands from her pastor, parents ect that our religion teaches what she doing is wrong. She doesn't always reject touching and caressing it but I have to admit due this I having been failing and pushing her away. I’m not meaning to but it happening I have taken notice and started to fix it and work with it her action are no reason for my poor ones but I pushed her away much so she has reasons to be upset. I have started shutting myself off, crying much, and being cold mostly. Also yelling and being rude I have became isolated and alone not being there for her and being caring/supportive like a husband should be. Since I noticed my problems I have fixed them but that is still there. Remember we are newly weds and she does not understand that those prior actions was based on this problem. If the mood changes to where you know sex is next then her attitude changes instantly no matter what was going on to upset and fear.
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